The effort to manage good balance in ones life seems to be a never ending effort to maintain.
Sitting in my new favorite chair in my woman cave I reflect on my week so far and am puzzled as to how I am still going strong and have not passed out from utter exhaustion. This week has just been crazy at work and as usual I am busier than I expected to be once again. You would think that one would expect for the unexpected to be a daily occurrence to some degree however I never seem to allow for such within my schedule.
People are so complex but God made us that way for good reason I'm sure. For me, my different aspects of personality are always fighting to take priority in the way I operate. The planning and organized side seems to always come out at first but is only on top at the beginning. I plan out my work days and try to fit in some time to take care of personal business as well. However, as soon as I get that first phone call, text, instant message or urgent email, I fall into helpful mode and that personality trait takes over almost immediately.
Who doesn't want to be helpful right? Well I tend to struggle with the ability to say no when I need to. I can almost always see the other perspective and need and fall right into stopping what I am doing to help. While not always, this can be a bad thing. I cannot stand to see things fall through the cracks.
Next thing I know I spend the majority of my day doing that unexpected thing and get nothing done I should of have. But today I started thinking about why this happens so often. I make myself available in too many avenues. I answer the phone every time it ring instead of letting someone leave a message. I keep my instant messenger signed in and in 'available' status. I keep both my personal and work cell phones at my side at all times. But in addition, I have an alert to tell me when I get a new email and when it goes off I immediately go to see what has come in my inbox.
So addition to people being able to get ahold of me by coming to my desk, I have opened up 5 additional avenues for people to get ahold of me. I have also set the expectation to others that I will immediately respond to them. It's my own darn fault that I allowed this to happen and fallen into this trap lacking any discipline.
But the funny thing is I am not alone. Many people do the same thing and find themselves buried in work, unable to keep up and absolutely stressed out. I am writing this not so much for others but for myself and for different reasons. For one, I write about this to get my thoughts out and reflect on my current situation. But I also am writing about this as a means to have something to reflect back on if I allow myself to get this way in the future.
At this stage in my life I have finally realized that I cannot control how others think act or behave nor can I change them. The only person I can control or change is myself!
So to get things back to a manageable level, I have some work to do. One thing I have done already is realize I have an issue and have come to the understanding of the root causes.
I lack discipline and am easily distracted by others.
Next I need to evaluate how to get things back on track. So I mentioned earlier about having 6 different avenues for people to get hold of me. And of those 6, I let all of them take priority. So, when I have a full plate I need to close some of those avenues and learn to not let the ones I leave open take priority of what I already have to get done. And I need to be disciplined to do one thing at a time and not worry about all these distractions.
If I do these things I can focus on the task at hand, complete it and move on. As I sit here and write this all down it seems so simple actually. And really. If someone can't wait for me then they will figure out another way to get what they need anyway.